What my hairstylist should have told me before I went grey
"Are you serious?"
Ok, I admit it. I’m the stylist. I’m writing this as if I were talking to one of my clients because this is what I REALLY want to say to them when they let it slip out that they are ‘considering’ that thing…. do I have to say it?…. growing out their natural grey.
We all know that one lady who has soft flowing beautiful silver hair. She probably has an athletic slim build. She works out, you can tell. She may be a yoga teacher or musician. She is bronzed and healthy-looking. She looks really great with all of that silver hair and seemingly non-existent makeup. Maybe you want to try it too? “Heck with it. I’m tired of coloring my hair. I’m going to just do it.”
Ok then. It’s a decision that needs a plan. That look works for her. It is the look that she has designed for herself, but is it really you?*
You will still look beautiful. It’s just not a color that will make you look younger.
This is what I tell my clients that want to go ‘all the way grey’:
Are you ready to look older? There is no way to slice it differently. Even with all the trimmings, completely grey hair will age you. You can rock it, and look gorgeous, but you are turning a page here. If you truly are ready for that now, at this stage of your life, go for it, but do these things first…
Try on grey wigs. Better yet, buy a wig and wear it for a few days… take the ‘sexy silver’ for a test drive before the full commitment.
Take photos and quality video. Seeing yourself objectively in a photo is a great way to truly see what others see.
Design a new hair new style!
Cut: Get and maintain an on-trend hairstyle. A long A-Line bob is beautiful if the cut frames the face, and ends below your jawline. If you are maintaining longer hair, the most flattering style length ends at the collarbone. This is not the time to keep your hair super long. (Think of the ‘wicked witch’…not the look you are going for). Plan to have more regular visits to your stylist to keep your haircut looking fresh.
Color: Discuss a ‘grow out’ plan with your stylist. If you have darker hair, you may want to lighten your color as it grows out, and/or add some highlights so there isn’t such a strong ‘skunk’ line. If you are a blonde, a glossy toner close to your natural shade can minimize the grey ‘roots’ until it is completely grown out.
Fall in love again with makeup. Bronze it up. Blush is a must. (my clients call me a “blush cheerleader”). Maintain filled in manicured eyebrows. Invest in bold, skin flattering lip shades. Have fun with eye makeup… a bit stronger but good blending will give you the flawless finish. Check out makeup lesson tutorials online. This is a great time to invest in yourself with inspiration from a seasoned professional. You are worth it.
Embrace it. Rock it. Don’t look back. Sail on silver girl……
“It’s Not Over Yet!” - Maintaining your REAL Beauty Power in your 40s, 50s and Beyond. By Sally Van Swearingen